There was a moment I couldn’t ignore anymore. Every time my husband and I moved into doggy style…At first, it felt good. Promising. Alive. And then...Nothing. It was like my body just… switched off. My pussy went offline. No signal. No sensation. No response. And I remember thinking: What the actual fuck is going on? Because here’s the thing, I know my body is capable of deep pleasure. I feel. I open. I orgasm. Sometimes multiple times. So why this position? Why here? Why the shutdown? The...

There’s a specific kind of grief in this. You love your partner. You love your life, for the most part. And yet… when it comes to sex? You’d rather scroll. Sleep. Literally reorganise the pantry. And then comes the guilt. “What’s wrong with me?”“I used to be different…”“Why has my desire just… disappeared?” Let me say something that might land like a full-body exhale. Your desire didn’t disappear. It went offline for a reason. And no, it’s not because you’re broken, frigid, don't love your...

We are offered two overarching tales when it comes to human sexuality, stories that shape our beliefs about sex, desire, pleasure, and intimacy long before we consciously choose them. Like the virgin and the whore, these tales sit at opposite ends of a spectrum and yet both keep us from knowing the truth. On one hand, we are still living with the puritanical hangover of religion, a legacy of sexual repression, moral control, and inherited shame. A cage many people remain entangled in. An old...